Q: Sometimes, a client will have an emotional release on my table and I leave the session feeling completely drained. What can I do to keep my own energetic boundaries? I’m so glad that people are finally beginning to talk about this issue. For the longest time, it’s been a taboo subject in educational settings. I’ve even heard this advice: “Just end the session immediately and refer them to a psychologist”. But that is not the Ho’omana way.
Anchor in White LightWhite Light is basically about anchoring pure energy. White light is useful in dream-walking, where you take someone back to a past trauma. Intuitively, you walk with their high spirit back to the place where whatever traumatic event occurred, encouraging them to receive the gifts from that experience and leave the suffering behind, supporting them into walking back to the present with a healing.
Let me share a story to illustrate…I was in clinic. One of my therapists had a client come in who uses deep breath work as an avenue of journeying while he's on the table. It was an open space with curtained treatment rooms. I was walking between rooms supervising students. When I walked by this particular student’s table, I could see that not only was the client deep journeying - his spirit was clearly elsewhere outside the room - but the student who was supposed to be grounded and holding space, was traveling there too! She was moving a lot of energy through her body. She was breathing in that same way but also emoting quite a bit. Energetically, her spirit was lifting off too. Immediately, I went and got 'Awa root, salt and ti leaves to bring her back down. This is a warning sign: If you are holding sacred space and you fly off into the distance with them… who is going to bring either of you back?
We, as practitioners, are the ones who must stay grounded in our space holding. We are the anchor.When you allow yourself to feel everything another is feeling to the depth described above - Pain. Trauma. Despair. - there is no longer a conscious grounding force in this plane of existence to anchor you back. Energetically, you are both adrift. With careful intention, you can cultivate a powerful healing practice by learning to anchor white light and remain grounded while you access to the Ike Papalua - the space of knowledge between the two realms of the earthly and the spiritual plane. One of my great mentors with anchoring energy is Ruth Kramer. When this anchoring is practiced with care, the feeling is a powerful and transformative meditation.
The practiceCall in white light to pour down from the Source above. This pure and powerful anchor, gives your client the opportunity allow their high, all-knowing spirit to travel to do the work that they need to do. The work is not limited by time, space and matter the way we are accustomed to experiencing this on the plane. They are safe to journey and return, because YOU are holding sacred space for them to do so in the Here and Now. The high spirit is able to journey, complete its work and then travel all the way back to the body. This is the intention I set in my practice. I journey with them as a guide and support to prompt what is needed. It’s like a guided meditation.
I anchor myself in White Light, grounded in the Here and Now.When the mission is complete, the healing gifts have been retrieved, and the pain and trauma have been released. We can come all the way back.
White Light ExpandsBe aware: the more light that you anchor in, the more that light that will fill the surrounding area. When someone has an emotional release, they are moving pure energy. Light is being anchored. The more light anchoring that happens in a space, the greater the energy. The vibration lifts and this amazing energy of connection can pour out onto others as well. In Advanced Lomi Lomi class, I've had someone on one side of the room laughing hysterically. On the other side of the room, a person may alternate between shivering and sweating, A third person might be belching. It’s all energy moving.
They are all anchoring light.When their light comes in, things that are ready to move are released. Anything that does not match pure light energy will shift. Here are some warning signs to alert you that grounding is needed:
- You, as the practitioner, feel as if you have the inescapable need to take a deep, deep cleansing breath.
- You, as the practitioner, feel the need to emote with no prompting from your end energetically.
- You see the bottom lip quivering as if they are going to cry.
- You notice tears welling up in the persons eyes, short and pulsating inhales like hyperventilation, whimpering.
- Your client begins to tighten up. They stop breathing as if to brace themselves against something coming.
- Your client gets “chicken skin” or goosebumps without a change in temperature in the room that can lead to shaking, shivering.
Breathe.Guide them in this meditation.
Light Anchoring MeditationImagine that there is a pillar of white light coming down from the heavens, through the crown of your head, all the way down to each area of your body. Envision this brilliance flowing down through the spine, filling your lung space, pouring down through every organ, every bone in the body down and out the fingertips and toes. Imagine that you are anchoring in so much light that as you look down, you even see it peeking through between your toes. See this pure light reaching down and linking to core of the earth. From the peak of heaven to the depths of the earth, this white light anchors the body in the Here and Now.
This is your anchor of pure white healing light.
Ask for GuidanceThis place of pure white energy is an amazing space to connect with your higher spirit. Ask for Spirit to tell you anything that you need to know. Ask your High Spirit to look down at the body to see anywhere that there may be stagnation, pain, trauma. Ask to be shown colors in your auric field that may give insight into areas that need to be released. Receive guidance that you can bring into the physical plane. Spirit will guide you, as the practitioner in direction you need to hold the space of healing. When you are grounded in this way, you will not carry or invite the energies from the client on your table into the body to take up residence. You will not feel drained of your personal energy.
You will instead, allow things to move through, while maintaining your own mana, spiritual divine essence.
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September 22, 2016 5 Comments Uncategorized
“The most important piece of equipment a massage therapist has is their own body.”-Sandra K. Anderson. I hear so many massage therapists complaining of joint and muscle pain. Carpal tunnel syndrome, lower back pain and medial epicondylitis, also known as golfer’s elbow are some of the most common issues.
There may be several different aspects of this pain, and we may need to address each of them in a different way.Here’s one explanation from a Lomi point of view: You may be blocking energy or taking on another person’s energy that has begun to move. Energetically, we're basically made of mostly water. I remember one of Auntie's students, telling me that the first time that he did Lomi - he’d never been taught. It went something like this. "Oh, Auntie, there's so many people that would need Lomi," and she said, "Yeah. You should work on them. You should work on them right now." "What do you mean? I don't do Lomi. I don't know Lomi," "Yes, you do. You know what to do. Just move the water. Feel where the water isn't moving and move the water." Interesting, right?
When I was in Ireland, we attempted to meet a healer named Moss Lane. He is a bone-setter.When I think about a bone-setter, I think of someone that moves the bones. Although we never actually met him, a woman told me how he worked. She said, "It's crazy. He takes a coat hanger, and then he moves it over your body. I think he uses it like a dowsing stick. People use the stick to figure out where water is. Anyway, he uses the coat hanger to find where the energy isn't moving in your body, and then helps you to move it. The goal is for energy to be flowing and open.”
It's the same thing in Lomi.Notice where is the channel flowing and where is it not flowing. If you tighten your muscles or lock your joints, you stop the flow. In Lomi, we use our forearms quite a bit. I notice a lot of people like to tighten the forearm during a stroke. It looks like this: Notice the extended wrist. Notice the fist. This movement creates is a closed chain of energy. It's like putting a dam, energetically and physically toward the water of the body. The water cannot flow because the muscle is constricted. The blood supply is constricted because of the fist at the end of the chain.
Picture this:You go to the doctor’s office and they want to collect a blood sample for some tests. You make a muscle and they put a tourniquet on your arm because they're trying to find the vein. You see how the tourniquet makes the vein get bigger. What you are seeing is pooled blood. It’s stagnation. And it’s the same process that occurs when you tighten your muscles in Lomi. Now, imagine the same forearm stroke. The hand is open. The wrist is relaxed. Now energy can flow all the way out the end of the fingertips. You’ve created a vessel where energy is moving for your clients and that energy has somewhere to go. The dam is removed and all of the channels are open. Watch this video to see some common mistakes as well as the correct forearm placement and stroke for Lomi.
Become aware of yourself.This is how we support others in knowing their restrictions in movement, where there isn't the best flow, or some kind of blockage. Open the channels and allow the water to flow, just as the water flows from the mountain to the stream. If you’d like to have even more mana ola, tools to raise your personal power, download my free guide HERE. And I would be ever-so-grateful if you would like, comment and share with your friends! LEARN MORE
September 1, 2016 1 Comment Uncategorized
Q: I love that Lomi Lomi is all about loving touch, but sometimes I get a client that confuses loving touch with sensual touch. Or has an alternate intention. Or is inappropriate in a sexual way. What can I do to when this kind of situation comes up?In Lomi Lomi, we are taught to hold sacred space for healing. In my 10 years of teaching this healing art form I’ve heard all kinds of stories:
Turning around to find a client on the table that uncovered/exposed themselves while the therapist’s back was turned
Lomi-ing the hand and having someone grab on to their hand
Clients saying things that are suggestive…and worse!
For me, sacred space is the sweet spot. I'm an advocate for healing energies to come through from spirit to the client. That’s the only reason I'm in the room.I have a word-for-word script that you can use to set the intention for your healing spaces. Get it FREE with the link at the bottom of this post. When I met Justin, who I would later marry, we met in several circles casually but never really talked. One day he called, asking for a massage. I thought that he was really handsome, but I also knew that if he's asking me for Lomi I have to set the intention. My role is not to massage him as someone who thinks that he's attractive. I must be the one holding a sacred space of healing for him. See the difference? When he arrived for his session, there was this unspoken energy between us. I needed to eliminate the idea of “something more” happening in the room. I said, ”I just want to let you know that I'm here to hold space of healing for you as a professional. That’s what my intention is for our time together”. (You wouldn’t necessarily say this in your work, but I’m just sharing a personal example.) Later, he told me how much he appreciated me taking the initiative to create a healing space. When we went into the session, I wasn’t thinking, "Oh my gosh, I'm massaging this cute guy!” For me, it was just as if I was massaging my auntie, uncle, sister, brother. We were able to connect on a soul level like family, instead of 2 people that could potentially be attracted to each other. In fact, every time I massage my husband, the only thing that we do on my massage table is Lomi. There is no crossover there for me, because I don't want that energy to be left over for the next person who comes in. Someone who is sensitive to subtle energies could get the wrong idea.
I believe when I’m clear with my intention, I eliminate the possibilities for lower level energies.In regards to reading the energies ahead of time to avoid any confusion, I set an intention for ONLY appropriate guests who match my energetic to find their way to my table. Next, I listen very carefully to my na’auao, intuitive gut instinct. Some comments that have activated my na’auao:
- “Do you have evening sessions and can I request a female therapist?”
- “Excessive draping gets in my way and I prefer to feel free. Do I need to use draping at your facility?”
- Clearly state the latest session ends at 6pm. This alone deters many clients looking for sensual touch.
- Let clients know that we use professional draping standards ensuring maximum coverage in discreet areas of the body.
- Never send a therapists out on an outcall alone after dark. If they are doing an outcall at any hour, I have them call in to the front desk while they are with the client.
What strategies have you used to handle people with alternate intentions? Leave a comment below:LEARN MORE
August 23, 2016 1 Comment Uncategorized
I’ve been getting some amazing feedback from my new, FREE mini-guide 10 Practices to Ignite, Reclaim and Maintain Your Personal Power. Mahalo nui to everyone who has taken the time to read, comment and share these potent rituals. Here’s a great question I received from one of my students:
Why salt and ti leaf?Why do those 2 particular ingredients raise my personal power? For Hawaiians, ti has crystalline energy. It is able to work within the physical realm and spiritual realm without changing it’s properties. Ti leaf is recognized by the ancestors and those who have gone beyond - This is why we use ti leaves as a wrapping for our ho’okupu, or offerings.
Ti is used for clearing.You will notice that all indigenous cultures have material for clearing people and spaces. We can petition the plants of the land to support us with their ability to transmute and transform energies. As a collective of world cultures, plants have been used as protective medicine and for their high vibratory presence for generations of time. Native Americans use sage. South Americans use palo santo. Europeans use lavender, laurel, or rosemary. Hawaiians use a swiping motion with a ti leaf to clear energy. Its mere presence will have a clearing effect.
Here are a few ways you can use ti leaf in your daily life:
- Have it at the entrance of your house to clear people's energies as they come in.
- Place a plant in a room in your house or in your treatment area to clear the energies.
- Place the leaves near the bed of someone in need of healing.
Salt is also crystalline, but it has a different effect.Salt helps to neutralize and balance electromagnetic fields. When someone is feeling off-center, we give salt internally. When someone needs spiritual clearing of energies or entities, we massage salt into the body. By adding prayers and breathing Ha, the breath of life, into the person that needs the healing as we Lomi the salt into the body, we purify and restore harmony to their energy field. Constant search for balance and homeostasis in nature is a principle that is also reflected in the body. Each cell of the body is regulated by both chemical reactions and electrical reactions. The balance of sodium inside and outside of each cell is essential to supporting life and carries an electromagnetic charge.
When we are in anger, fear, or engaging in any emotion that throws us off our center, we leave ourselves vulnerable to negative energies and disconnected from our divine alignment.Salt is a repellent for negative energies. When I speak of clearing, there are two components: the internal influences of the mind and the external influences of the environment that take us into a negative polarity. When these two elements, salt and ti leaf, are used together for clearing - as in the Pi Kai ceremonies that we use before we begin Lomi classes - we open a clear, sacred space for the energy of healing to flow. Use this mana ‘ola, practice to raise spiritual power designed to prepare you and your space for the highest possible outcome.
Make it a habit to prepare your environment for optimum wellbeing.In my healing space, I have an herbal healing mist that contains ti leaf hydrosol, salt, and rose, the highest vibrational essential oil. I use this between each client to mist my room, my table and myself. I also mist over each piko (chakra) on the client's body to end their session. There are even more ideas in my mini-guide, 10 Practices to Ignite, Reclaim and Maintain Your Personal Power. To get your free copy click here. I am excited to share even more mana ‘ola with you in the coming weeks. Please help me get the word out by commenting below: Will you be adding salt and ti leaf to your healing space? LEARN MORE
August 11, 2016 18 Comments Hawaiian Culture & Spirituality, Herbal Beauty and Body Treatment Add-Ons, Massage Therapy, Transformational Hawaiian Spa Rituals, Uncategorized
Learning to stay grounded is an essential component of maintaining your mana, personal divine essence and energetic life force.
When you allow yourself to feel everything another is feeling or to take on their moods, there is no longer a conscious grounding force in this plane of existence to anchor you back.With careful intention, you can cultivate a powerful healing practice by learning to anchor white light and remain grounded while you access the Ike Papalua - the space of knowledge between the two realms of the earthly and the spiritual plane.
Here are a few more tools to help you stay grounded.These are some of my personal favorites - practices that help me remain grounded in my healing work:
1. Wear wood or something from the earth in a pendant or piece of jewelry.By connecting to earthly elements, we help our bodies remain grounded.
2. Have wood in your space.A simple way to stay grounded during moments of intensity is to have wood in your nearby vicinity. Choose a wooden statue or piece of art that is meaningful to you. It could be a Buddha or a Guanyin or a Tara. Personally, I use the legs of my table. Because it’s readily available, I just wrap my feet around the legs of the table as I'm working to physically ground my body through wood.
3. BreatheSet the intention for grounding to earth, even if you’ve journeyed with the client to a difficult place.
4. Take a drink of red clay, alaea.Auntie Mahi Poe Poe's Tonic contains a distillation of red earth. Basically, the red earth is boiled down and it’s condensation is captured in a process that traps the medicine in a molecule of water. You can take it internally without feeling like you’re “eating dirt”.
5. Smell Sandalwood.Sandalwood is also very grounding rooting one to the earth and bringing mental clarity. Our Sandalwood Herbal Mist has the hydrosol and essential oil of Sandalwood. In feng shui, we learn that Earth element is the “mother” of all elements. It is creative. Life-nurturing. Stabilizing. Sandalwood is the most fragrant of the earthly scents.
6. Wear Hematite.Hematite is always a good choice to help you feel balanced, centered and ready to engage in your work. Hematite crystals can be helpful for people who are vulnerable to taking on the emotions and energies of others. Connie Barrett says Hematite is a “power stone whose purpose is to deepen the connection between spirit and body. It helps us to keep our sense of self and sense of purpose firm. Its reflective quality symbolizes its ability to help deflect the emotions of others.”
Remember, you just have to connect energetically with the grounding element.
You could put your hands on it, you could look at it, you can wear it - anything to connect.In my healing space, I have a fountain made of stone and the water pours out onto the crystals in the bowl below. I always have hematite in there and other crystals too, just in case I need them. I have several other mana ola, practices to give vitality to your spiritual power, in my guide, “10 Practices to Ignite, Reclaim and Maintain your Personal Power”. Get it FREE by clicking here and please… share it with your friends. It really helps me to get the word out about the work we are doing at Ho’omana Spa Maui. I have 1 or 2 spaces in my Hawaiian Healing Retreat in San Francisco this November. I'd love to see you there! Get all the details here. How do you remain grounded in your work and energetic travels? I’d love to hear from you in the comments below! LEARN MORE
October 14, 2016 4 Comments Uncategorized